🟠 Talking About Korean Cultural Taboos and Manners – Intermediate Level (TOPIK 3–4)
🙅♂️ Korean Cultural Taboos & Manners — Intermediate Level (TOPIK 3–4)
Have you ever worried about making a cultural mistake in Korea—like sticking your chopsticks in rice or handing something with one hand?
Understanding cultural taboos (금기) and manners (예절) is essential for building good relationships in Korea. This guide shows you what to avoid, how to act politely, and which phrases to use in sensitive situations.
이 글에서는 한국에서 자주 나오는 금기와 예절을 정리하고, 어색한 상황을 피하기 위한 한국어 표현도 함께 연습해 볼 거예요.
🎯 Learning Objectives
By the end of this post, you’ll be able to:
- Identify common taboos in Korean culture (gestures, dining habits, symbols).
- Use essential polite manners in social and professional settings.
- Say simple but effective Korean phrases in sensitive situations.
📚 Table of Contents (open/close)
🚫 Major Cultural Taboos
- Sticking chopsticks upright in rice
This reminds Koreans of funeral rites and ancestral ceremonies, where incense or rice with sticks is used for the dead. - Writing names in red ink
Traditionally, red ink was used for names of the deceased. Writing someone’s name in red can feel like “wishing bad luck.” - Pointing with your finger
Pointing directly at a person is considered rude or aggressive. Use an open hand or gesture with your palm instead. - Pouring your own drink in a group
At dinners, especially with older people or colleagues, you pour for others and they pour for you. Constant “self-pouring” can look unfriendly.
🙏 Important Manners
- Use two hands when giving or receiving items, especially to elders or in formal settings.
한 손 대신 두 손을 사용하면 공손하고 예의 바른 인상을 줍니다. - Bow slightly when greeting, thanking, or apologizing.
A small bow with eye contact is enough in everyday situations. - Remove shoes before entering someone’s home.
This is almost always expected in Korean homes and many traditional places. - Wait for elders to start eating before you begin your meal.
Watch the oldest person or the host; start eating after they lift their chopsticks.
🗣 Useful Phrases (Polite Level)
Use these when you feel you might make (or already made) a mistake:
죄송합니다. — joesong-ham-ni-da — I’m sorry / Excuse me.
먼저 드세요. — meon-jeo deu-se-yo — Please eat first.
감사합니다. — gam-sa-ham-ni-da — Thank you.
Mini practice: Combine manners + phrase:
예) 식사 자리에서 먼저 드세요라고 말하면서, 두 손으로 술잔을 드리세요.
🧩 Teacher’s Tips
Many learners worry about accidentally offending someone. Here is my advice:
- Don’t panic.
Koreans know foreigners may not know every custom. A polite smile and “죄송합니다” usually fix the situation. - Watch others first.
In group settings (especially company dinners), observe what seniors do and follow their lead. - Practice small phrases + gestures.
Saying “먼저 드세요” or using two hands when passing items makes a strong positive impression.
I’ve seen students gain confidence quickly once they try these small habits in real life.
🗯 Say What? — 눈치 (nunchi)
눈치 (nunchi) is a uniquely Korean word meaning “reading the room” or sensing others’ feelings and atmosphere.
- When to speak and when to stay quiet.
- When to pour drinks for others.
- When to leave a gathering.
눈치를 잘 보면, 말보다 행동으로 예의를 보여 줄 수 있어요.
🌏 Did You Know?
Korea has one of the highest coffee shop densities in the world, with tens of thousands of cafés nationwide. Because of this, social meetings often happen in cafés rather than at home.
Buying coffee for the group, or taking turns paying, is a common “small manners” gesture that shows care and friendliness.
📦 Final Thoughts
Learning cultural taboos and manners helps you avoid awkward moments and build warmer relationships with Koreans. You don’t need to be perfect—just show that you are trying.
Start with simple habits: use two hands, bow lightly, wait for elders, and say “죄송합니다 / 감사합니다” often. These small actions make a big difference in how locals see you.
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